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BETTER THAN HEARSAY - Pricelessness and the Price of Eggs

Written By The Mountain Eagle on 12/14/25 | 12/14/25


A ceremonial sendoff was given to town of Prattsville highway chief Bill Sutton, this week, after nearly 30 years of service.



By Michael Ryan

CORNWALLVILLE - Maybe the price of eggs has nothing to do with it but they’re different nowadays, so it’s a good time to mention a few other changes going on within local government.

A couple of towns are losing some good folks and before anybody calls me to complain that there are a lot of good ones still left, that isn’t the point.

Nobody is irreplaceable I’ve been told, but I’ve never bought into that because a job can be filled but sometimes it’s never the same.

That explains Bill Sutton, the highway superintendent in the town of Prattsville the past 29 years who was presented with a plaque and respectful sendoff, the other night.

“I’m getting tired, plus the way prices are going up is driving me crazy,” Sutton said, announcing his retirement in the fall.

He was talking about the cost of machinery and materials, not eggs, as he further said, “It’s been a good time,” expecting to stay busy with a slew of grandkids and a couple of great grandies.

Pastor Dewitt Olmstead was elected to the position in November so the town will be in good hands. My memory of Bill Sutton is him doing everything he did on one leg and never whining about it.

He lost the limb in a car accident 54 years ago. He says he was down and out about it until his heart was unexpectedly touched.

“They sent me to a clinic. I was sitting there when this little girl came running toward me. She was running kinda’ funny,” Sutton says. 

“She was smiling and when I looked I saw she had an artificial leg and I thought, ‘if she can do it there’s no reason I shouldn’t,’” he says.

“And if you’re going to write something,” Sutton added, “make sure you thank the people in Prattsville for putting up with me this long.”

It’s a similar story of not-always-seen-anymore dedication in Windham where Gary Thorington is retiring after 31 years with the highway department, including the past decade as roads chief.

He’s a homegrown kid and isn’t much into talking about himself except maybe when it comes to the road de-icing program he brought to the department, increasing efficiency and saving taxpayer money.

It hasn’t done anything for the expense of eggs but, “we changed things around and, without beating my chest, I’m proud of the way it has all worked out,” says Thorington, fondly known as “The Gipper.”

And without saying it in so many words, The Gipper is proud to be part of the long, respected line of Windham roads chiefs.

As he talked about his successful career, he removed a plaque from his office wall showing the names of past highway superintendents.

He follows in the plowing bootsteps of his predecessor, Thomas Hoyt, who wisely modernized the department, and old school guys like George Mulford and Biff Andrus, mentioning them with dignity.

Mulford taught him the ropes, letting him figure stuff out on his own when need be, a sensibility The Gipper is passing along to his successor.

“BJ will be fine,” Thorington says of Robert “BJ” Murray, elected to the job in November. “He has a lot of roadbuilding experience. He has a ton of common sense. He’ll get his own rhythm, like the rest of us.”

The residents of Lexington are losing two deeply devoted public servants, town supervisor Jo Ellen Schermerhorn, going to greener pastures, and town clerk/tax collector Charlotte Jaeger, headed to Bluegrass country.

Schermerhorn has been supervisor for six years following eight years as a councilwoman. “If I could just spend all my time talking to people, it would be fine but I can’t keep up with all the computer changes,” she says.

Wanting to instead spend that time with her grandchildren, Schermerhorn says, “I feel a lot has been accomplished, but I couldn’t have done it without my two righthand women.”

Jaeger is one of them, stepping down from her double role to switch zip codes, moving to the State of Kentucky in the near future.

Schermerhorn’s other righthand woman is Peggy Rappleyea, who has retired as court clerk dating back virtually beyond memory, fortunately sticking around as assessor clerk.

And it is worth mentioning Richard Tompkins, retiring, although not really, as Ashland town supervisor after four decades of public service.

Tompkins is simply moving to the highway superintendent’s spot, having also been a town judge, a volunteer fireman and an ambulance worker. Now if he could only do something about the price of eggs.


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LEGISLATURE STUFF - An Overhaul of Overly Hauling

By Michael Ryan

CATSKILL - The little ol’ transfer station in the town of Windham is going bigtime following passage of a resolution by the Greene County Legislature, earlier this week.

Lawmakers authorized an agreement with Barton & Loguidice engineering for professional services on a massive makeover at the site, following a recommendation from county highway superintendent Scott Templeton.

While the measure still has to be okayed by the full board, later this month, it is expected to be approved, having unanimously breezed through a Public Works committee meeting, this past Monday night.

If ultimately accepted, the resolution sets aside a maximum of $268,500 for the expertise of Barton& Loguidice, an Albany-based firm listed on the county’s regular roster of potential engineering contractors.

Windham’s transfer station, along Mitchell Hollow Road, will be undergoing a significant upgrade, transforming what is a relatively quaint residential garbage drop-off/recycling center into a modern, direct-haul station.

Making it a direct-haul spot, “will result in major savings in both time and money,” Templeton said, providing staggering numbers for lawmakers.

Last year, the county made 375 round trips, 42 miles each, totaling 15,000 miles, transporting trash to Catskill from Windham for re-handling and sorting before trucking it to an enormous, western New York landfill..

Those local trips will be eliminated, instead hauling directly from Windham to the beautiful-sounding Seneca Meadows, in Seneca Falls.

“We did this in [the neighboring mountaintop town of] Hunter and it has worked out really well,” Templeton said, referring to a similar project completed two years ago.

Hunter is now, “operating at maximum and Windham is in dire need of improvement,” Templeton said, solving two problems together, letting citizens more easily deposit waste in Windham.

“Windham has to be larger than it currently is but we will keep it as small as we can,” Templeton said, in deference to its nearness to residences and the community’s highway department.

The final cost is estimated between $2 million to $3 million, a tidy sum, although, “we have seen that in the long run, a direct-haul station is definitely a cost benefit for taxpayers,” Templeton said. 

A re-design of the facility, along with all the necessary permitting and logistics, could be completed in 2026, setting the stage for a 2027 groundbreaking,”if the stars align,” Templeton said.

Greene County currently leases the 2-acre site from the town of Windham for $1 a year, an arrangement that may stay the same or end with an outright purchase by the county.

“This is another important difference for the mountaintop. The Windham and Hunter transfer stations are surprisingly busy. It will be great for the whole area,” Templeton said.

Windham, even though it is commonly known as “the dump,” like any of the other three stations in Hunter, Catskill and Coxsackie, is also somewhat legendary for its quaintly rural signage.

One sign that became particularly noteworthy during the pandemic states, “please don’t lick your fingers when giving us money.” A normal bag of garbage costs three dollars.

And, believe it or not, visitors are also warned not to rummage around in the dumpsters containing trash or recyclables.

In other matters related to the mountaintop, lawmakers okayed resolutions connected to a culvert replacement job in the town of Prattsville and the rebuilding of the historic Platte Clove Bridge in the town of Hunter.

Authorization was given for an expansion of services necessary for the

completion of the replacement of a County Route 2 culvert over Gully Creek in Prattsville, increasing a previous allotment.

Lawmakers, this past summer, awarded the job to William J. Keller & Sons Construction Corp., now agreeing to up the cost by $3,247.99, the resolution states, also awaiting full board backing later this month.

The need has arisen, “for the installation of a new 60' HDPE pipe required to prevent storm water from collecting on the adjacent property,” bringing the job total to $501,787.99, the resolution states, transferring the funds from a Miscellaneous Bridge account.

And more time may pass before the mission is achieved at the legendary Platte Clove Bridge on the outermost end of Hunter.

Lawmakers, last year, agreed to pay CDM Smith $208,858 for engineering services linked to a redesign of the bridge, hoping to have rehab work wrapped up in 2026.

However, “we have received a red flag from the [State] Department of Transportation about a rock fracture in one of the footings,” says Templeton, requiring a shift to Plan B.

The famously steep and twisting roadway on the far side of the Platte Clove Bridge is shut down from mid-November through the next spring, putting crews on a tight and maybe unmeetable deadline.

“It’s a short construction window so if we can’t get this out of bed early [in 2026], we may have to push it to 2027,” Templeton said, noting all effort continues to be made to preserve the bridge’s awe-inspiring stone arch.


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Out Lexington Way

By Christine Dwon

The Rappleyea/Strausser house on Spruceton Road, West Kill was destroyed by fire on Dec. 2.  Dale Strausser and his dog were living in the home.  They are both safe. Everything was lost in the fire.    Needed clothing—36×32 pants, 2XL shirts, 9 ½ shoes. There is a collection box at the Community Hall in West Kill. Donations may also be left at the Lexington Municipal Building. Debbie Maynard is the contact person at 518-610-3439.      

Santa Claus came to town Dec. 6 to the annual Tree Lighting and Carol Sing in West Kill on a Town of Lexington Fire Company truck to the delight of everyone there.  After lighting the tree, everyone including Santa, went to the Community Hall for refreshments and visit with Santa.

If you would like to contribute to a Toy Drive for Children in the Hunter-Tannersville Central School District, there is a drop box located at Van Dusen’s, 4021 Route 42, Lexington until Dec. 14.  New unwrapped generic toys are being requested for ages 1 to 17 years.

Happy birthday to Linda Nicholls on Friday, Dec. 12.

Saturday, Dec. 13 is Rick Dearstyne’s birthday.

Rocco D’Addario has a birthday on Sunday, Dec. 14.

Happy 52nd wedding anniversary to Pam and Jim Tilp Tuesday, Dec. 16.

Also celebrating a wedding anniversary on Dec. 16 are Judy and Steve Haskin.

Happy birthday to Mickie Winters Wednesday, Dec. 17.

Best wishes to everyone.

The Mountain Top Parish-wide Christmas Party and Potluck Supper is Friday, Dec. 12 at 5 p.m. at the Lexington/West Kill UMC, Lexington.  If you are able, please bring a dish to share and a grab bag gift.  All are welcome

Ashland Community UMC, 12216 State Route 23, Ashland is having a Cookie Walk on Saturday, Dec. 13 from 2 p.m. to 4 p.m.

Santa Claus will be at the Mountain Top Library, 6093 Main Street, Tannersville on Saturday, Dec. 13 at 11 a.m.  To contact the library call 518-589-5707.

Saturday, Dec. 14 from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m. is the Holiday Fun Holly Jolly Party at the Blenheim-Gilboa Visitor Center, 13787 State Route 30, North Blenheim.  Free photos with Santa, every child gets a holiday ornament, letter writing to Santa, kids crafts, carriage ride and more, rain or shine, free admission and parking.

There is a Mountaintop Community Dinner on Monday, Dec. 15 at 6 p.m. at the VFW Post 1545, 5565 NY 23, Windham.  All are welcome for this free community dinner.  Come and enjoy good food and company.  Please bring non-perishable food items for local food pantries.  To contribute for future community dinners you can make checks payable to Mountaintop Interfaith Community, POB 139, Tannersville, NY 12485, add memo “food security.”  For more information or to volunteer call 914-523-3766 or Jonathangross25@gmail.com.

Greene County Department of Human Services is now partnering with Catholic Charities of Columbia-Greene County National Community Care Corps Volunteer Program for Homebound Medical Transportation.  Existing medical transportation clients should now call 518-828-8660, ext 115 to schedule.  New clients in need of medical transportation should call Greene County DHS for an assessment at 518-719-3556.

A Medicare Minutes Representative will be available from the Greene County Department of Human Services with info and for questions on Tuesday, Dec. 30 at 11:45, at the Senior Service Center at the Jewett Municipal Building 3547 County Route 23C, Jewett, 518-263-4392. If you would like to stay for lunch, please call at least a day in advance to reserve your meals.

VFW Post 1545, 5565 NY 23, Windham, has Bingo Nights the first and third Thursdays of the month.  Food and beverages are available for purchase from the Windham Community Center.  Arrive at 6 p.m., games start to 6:30 p.m.

The Greene County Senior Nutrition Program menu for the week of Dec. 15 – Dec. 19 is as follows:  Monday—Sloppy Joes (gluten in bun), old fashioned vegetable mix, white rice, fruit cocktail; Tuesday—Sweet and sour chicken, oriental vegetables, white rice, tropical fruit; Wednesday—Hot dog (gluten in bun) with sauerkraut, baked beans, carrots, sugar cookie; Thursday—Christmas holiday dinner—cheese and crackers, baked ham with chutney, sweet potato, cauliflower Au Gratin, cheesecake with cherry topping; Friday—Crab topped cod, zucchini/yellow squash, rice pilaf (contains gluten), fresh fruit.  All persons 60 and older are invited to attend.  Meals served at noon, suggested $4 donation for each meal.  Congregate reservations are required by noon at least a day in advance.  If you reserve a meal and are unable to attend, please call as soon as you can to cancel.  The number to call for the Senior Service Center the Jewett Municipal Building, 3547 County Route 23C, Jewett is 518-263-4392.

Help feed local families.  The Tannersville Food Pantry, which is a mission of the Kaaterskill and East Jewett UM Churches, is asking for your help in donating non-perishable food and oral care items, Chunky Soups, Beef Stew, Spaghetti-O’s, pasta, cereal, canned vegetables, beans.  The food pantry is open to all on Wednesdays from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m.  The pantry is located by the Tannersville Firehouse. Food donations may be brought Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Tannersville Village Hall, One Park Place, Tannersville.  You may also send a donation to Kaaterskill UMC, POB 225, Tannersville, NY 12485.

Thank you to all law enforcement, firefighters, EMS, dispatchers, volunteers, healthcare providers, veterans, actively serving military, farmers, truck drivers and so many more.

Prayers for all who are dealing with loss, illnesses, healing, difficulties, our country, our military and their families, the world.

Until next week take care, be thankful, be safe, be respectful to others and please be kind to one another.  Your act of kindness may change someone’s life.


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Sgt. James F. Carty, DSC VFW Post 1545


Winter has rolled in with a big blast of cold weather for us this past week. We had bingo on Thursday December 4th along with some snow squalls which limited our attendance although it was a fun group who came and played. 

We were all warm and comfortable and I would like to thank all who showed up. Our next bingo night will be Thursday December 18 at 6 p.m. 

We judged all the Patriot Pen entrees and invitations will be going out to the students with a date to be determined for award presentations. Thank you to all who entered the contests.

Veteran news of interest to all veterans: VFW National Legislative Director Kristina Keenan testified at a hearing on pending legislation before the House Committee on Veterans’ Affairs.

H.R.6047Sharri Briley and Eric Edmundson Veterans Benefits Expansion Act of 2025, would provide an added supplement to Special Monthly Compensation for catastrophically injured veterans and would raise Dependency and Indemnity Compensation for survivors.

However, it would be financed by removing the VA home loan funding fee exemption for disabled veterans rated 70 percent or below on their second and subsequent uses of the loan. 

“The VFW wants to see increases in monthly support to the most severely disabled veterans, and we want to see survivor benefits strengthened. We agree that these are long overdue, but asking disabled veterans to finance them is something the VFW cannot accept," said Keenan.

The VFW supports legislation to allow the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) to recover costs from Medicare Advantage and Medicare Part D plans. 

This would significantly enhance and clarify VA's authority to recover costs directly from Medicare Advantage plans, helping to offset the expenses of care provided to veterans.

Currently, a problem arises with the duplication of Medicare payments for veterans enrolled in both VA and Medicare Advantage or Part D plans. 

Under existing law, VA is prohibited from billing Medicare for services provided to veterans, which results in private insurers receiving payments from the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services without actually covering veterans' care. This loophole leads to taxpayers effectively paying twice for the same services.

 Many veterans are still being prescribed powerful psychiatric drug combinations without clear written information about risks, side effects or safer alternatives. 

The Senate Committee on Veterans’ Affairs held a hearing to examine VA medication management for which the VFW submitted testimony for the record to convey to Congress how serious this problem has become. Two House bills have been introduced that would provide real protection.

H.R.4837Written Informed Consent Act, would require written informed consent before VA prescribes certain psychiatric medications; and H.R.2623Innovative Therapies Centers of Excellence Act of 2025, would expand access to innovative PTSD treatments to reduce reliance on heavy medication. Your voice matters, so take action now and tell Congress to support these solutions.

VFW Recovers $16.2 Billion for Veterans: VFW National Veterans Service (NVS) continues to stand as one of the strongest advocates for America’s veterans, delivering direct, life-changing support at no cost.

With a network of more than 2,300 highly trained VA-accredited representatives serving in communities across the country and around the world, NVS ensures veterans and their families receive the care, benefits and recognition they have earned.

These dedicated representatives have assisted more than 608,000 veterans with their claims and appeals, guiding them through a complex and often overwhelming process.

To date, their unmatched expertise and commitment has resulted in over $16.2 billion recovered in earned benefits, all free of charge to every veteran they assisted. NVS remains proudly mission focused: veterans first, always. 

Our post again this year will donate $500 in gift cards for items at Hannaford food stores to the Stratton VA Hospital volunteers.

The volunteer group has food items (dry goods) at the hospital on the 9th floor for veterans in need to pick up. The one thing that they do not have is refrigeration for dairy items etc.

These gift cards enable the veterans to pick up those items. Should you want to add to our donation, please donate to Post 1545, PO Box 598, Windham, NY 12496 with whatever you can, and we will add it to our total. 

For many, this past December 7th we remembered Pearl Harbor and the people who lost their lives in the Japanese attack. 

MIA Update: The Defense POW/MIA Accounting Agency announced six identifications and four burial updates for service members who have been missing and unaccounted for from World War II and the Korean War. This week we have announce U.S. Army Air Forces Staff Sgt. Merrill E. Brewer, 26, of Monticello, Maine killed during World War II, was accounted for Dec. 20, 2024.

In the fall of 1943, Brewer served as the waist gunner aboard a B-24 Liberator bomber with 858th Bombardment Squadron, 492nd Bombardment Group, Eighth Air Force. The unit was engaged in Operation CARPETBAGGER, a series of secret missions in which several specially designated bomb groups dropped supplies, arms, equipment, leaflets, and U.S. Office of Strategic Services and French agents to resistance groups operating in northern France. On Sept. 16, 1944, Brewer’s crew was scheduled to fly its final mission to drop supplies to resistance forces 40 miles east of the Moselle River. 115th Anti-Aircraft Artillery Gun Battalion, an American artillery unit stationed near Lebeuville, France, mistook Brewer’s B-24 for an enemy aircraft and opened fire upon it. Of the eight crewmembers aboard, two successfully parachuted to safety while the remaining six, including Brewer, died when the aircraft crashed. On the morning of Sept. 17, 1944, American soldiers recovered remains from the crash site, along with identification tags belonging to four of the crewmembers, including Brewer. They were subsequently buried in a common grave at U.S. Military Cemetery (USMC) Andilly, France. In 1949, official confirmed the group identification of the remains based on the presence of the identification tags and in 1951, they were repatriated to the U.S. and interred together in one casket at Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery in St. Louis, Missouri.

Brewer’s name is recorded on the Walls of the Missing at Lorraine American Cemetery, along with others still missing from WWII. A rosette will be placed next to his name to indicate he has been accounted for. Brewer was buried in Bridgewater, Maine, in September 2025.

Keep all MIA service men and woman who served our country, along with the still serving in your thoughts and prayers. God bless America.

Marc Farmilette, PDC ~ Post 1545 Commander


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Staff Sgt. Merrill E. Brewer

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Democrat Mary Finneran announces her candidacy for Assembly District 102

CAIRO — The following statement was released by Mary Finneran, who is seeking a seat in the State Assembly.

As their chair, I’m proud that the Cairo Democratic Committee strongly supports my candidacy for the 102nd Assembly District’s seat, being left vacant by Assemblyman Chris Tague’s decision to run for state senate. 

I’m a lifelong upstate New Yorker, retired educator, artist, union member and organizer in social/economic and environmental/climate issues.  I’ve served on many boards and committees including 5 years on the Cairo Library Board, and 11 years on the executive committee of the Coxsackie-Athens Teachers Association, 6 of those years as an elected building rep. While a teacher at the Coxsackie-Athens CSD I also served as the K12 Art Department Chair.

I was elected to serve for 5 years on the executive board of the Sierra Club Atlantic Chapter (SCAC).  I currently serve on several  SCAC committees, my favorite being the legislative committee where I’ve become very well versed in the legislative process.  I'm chair of the environmental committee of the NY Progressive Action Network and am a dues paying member of the WFP and DSA.  

I will bring a fresh perspective to the New York State Legislature.  I will fight for issues pertinent to rural and Upstate New Yorkers.  As an assembly member some of my concerns will be food insecurity, inadequate health care services, and lack of affordable housing. I will work to strengthen our agricultural sector, road and highway infrastructure, and will advocate for those most in need. 

I’ve lobbied for years in Albany for the NY Health Act (Medicare for all), to protect funding for public libraries and  education, as well as for bills related to protecting the people from climate change, pollution, and toxins, such as pfas from sewage sludge spreading in our farm fields and elsewhere. 

I will bring a local voice to local issues including on renewables siting and eminent domain;  I believe this issue can be resolved while finding ways to satisfy the energy needs of all.  Joni Mitchell said “Pave paradise put in a parking lot” decades ago; I say “Take that parking lot, put in a solar field".

I’ve rallied and lobbied so often at the capital complex that it feels like a second home; I look forward to making it my work home when elected to the assembly. 


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Hike with the Mountaintop Historical Society in the New Year

HAINES FALLS — The Mountain Top Historical Society (MTHS) of Greene County warmly invites you to start the New Year off on the right foot Jan. 1 from 10am to 12pm. Please arrive 15 minutes early! Join us for a truly lovely and invigorating 4-mile round trip jaunt from the MTHS campus, winding through the majestic Catskill Forest Preserve, to the breathtaking Kaaterskill Falls. Begin 2026 surrounded by the stunning beauty of nature and the warm spirit of community. We can’t wait to share this festive beginning with you! Registration is required. The front parking lot at the Mountain Top Historical Society campus, 5132 Route 23 A, Haines Falls, NY 12436 (GPS Coordinates: 42.194805, -74.092355) Google Maps

Difficulty Level: Primarily flat with minimal incline and decline. Suitable for a wide range of hiking levels. About 1.5 miles into the hike, there are some benches available for sitting and resting if needed.

Special Instructions: Please dress for the weather. In case of inclement weather, contact mthsdirector@mths.org for updates. All ages welcome. No pets are allowed on this hike.


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PFC Willie “Mack” Jackson honored as 2025 Veteran of the Year



CATSKILL — The Greene County Veterans Service Agency proudly honored lifelong Catskill resident, Army PFC Willie “Mack” Jackson as the 2025 Greene County Veteran of the Year. Mr. Jackson served with distinction in the U.S. Army’s 4th Infantry Division from 1960–1962. After completing his service and returning to his hometown of Catskill, he remained deeply involved in the veteran community as a lifetime member of the VFW.  

He dedicated decades to supporting local youth through the Catskill Boys Club and Catskill Little League. A heartfelt thank you and congratulations to PFC Willie “Mack” Jackson for all you have done to honor your country and Greene County.


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Hear Here Interviews New Windham Mountain Terrain Park Manager Robbie Gilbertsen

WINDHAM — Hear Here was joined by Robbie Gilbertsen, the new Terrain Park Manager at Windham Mountain Club. Robbie’s connection to Windham goes all the way back. Being a true local who grew up in Windham, attended Windham Ashland Jewett school, and had in the past worked park staff at the mountain, Robbie’s return is true full circle. 
Evan and Jesse also having a deep history in the area brought out lots of reminiscing on bygone eras of after school night skiing with groups of friends so big they filled many chairlifts. It was actually these very same connections that lead to his return!  Robbie’s journey lead him out of state to Vermont, where he spent years honing his skill set on and off the board, and provided opportunity for him to take steps from staff to supervisor and now into the role in management. 
The chance to return to Windham and build the Terrain Park Program up to the potential it has was too good to pass up! Not that it was an easy task! There were many hours of gathering features, cleaning shop space, and re-envisioning what the parks and freestyle programs could be and the proof is in the product! With a bold new color scheme, graphic and visionary behind it all, the excitement for the Terrain Parks at Windham Mountain Club is building! Great to have Robbie back! 
Search Hear Here – Robbie Gilbertsen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. Thanks for listening!


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[Mountaintop Emotional Resilience - Winter Holidays : Caring for Self and Community, One Season at a Time

By Helle Thorning, Ph.D.

It was the first weekend in December and my grandkids, ages 7 and 9, were visiting. When we planned what to do, they said, “Let’s bake cookies!” What a wonderful idea—and exactly the kind of thing a grandmother should do. The only problem? I rarely bake.

Still, how hard could it be? I had warm memories of baking with my own grandmother. In no time, we had a recipe, a shopping list, and off we went.

Despite the simple recipe, our collective goodwill, and plenty of enthusiasm, the outcome wasn’t what we expected. We added too much flour, forgot the food coloring, and made frosting that refused to firm up. The kitchen (plus the kids—and me) ended up covered in dough. And when we finally tasted the cookies, they resembled dry, hard bread more than the sugar cookies we’d imagined. A colossal disappointment all around.

Does the scene sound familiar?

The holiday season is upon us. It’s a wonderful time, but it can also be stressful. The promise of joy, laughter, perfect gifts, and seamless family togetherness is everywhere—on social media, in movies, in storefronts, and across neighborhood porches. Yet for many of us, this season brings a complicated mix of the good, the bad, and the ugly.

You might be anxious about hosting a gathering, anticipating difficult conversations with relatives who have different traditions or political views, or navigating family dynamics that get triggered this time of year. The season can also intensify feelings of grief or loss. It may remind us of people we miss, prompt reflection on where our life has been and where it’s going, highlight financial strain during a gift-focused time, or stir difficult memories from holidays past.

These experiences can lead to what many call the holiday blues, which are often seasonal and temporary. You may notice a general sense of sadness, changes in eating or sleeping patterns, withdrawing from activities you normally enjoy, feeling hopeless, increased tension with family or community, or slipping back into unhealthy coping habits such as smoking, drinking, overeating, oversleeping, or misusing substances. Anyone can become sad during the holidays, and it’s important to remember you are not alone.

What Can I Do to Make the Holidays More Tolerable—Or Even Enjoyable?

Your holiday gathering is more likely to be successful when you attend to your own needs and support others in caring for theirs. A few simple strategies can make a meaningful difference.

Start by setting ground rules and asking about specific needs that might help everyone feel more comfortable. Just as we ask about dietary restrictions, we can gently ask about emotional or environmental needs. It may help to decide together which topics are off-limits—politics, illness, unemployment, or relationship struggles. Agreeing on a realistic budget for gifts or food ensures no one feels pressured to overspend.

Throughout the gathering, be mindful of your reactions: respond rather than react. If you need a moment, step outside or into another room to regroup. If someone says something hurtful, try calmly saying; Now is neither the time nor the place to discuss this. Let’s enjoy ourselves today. Sharing positive comments—complimenting someone’s outfit, decorations, or efforts—can help lift the mood and make others feel appreciated. And remember that it’s okay to take breaks: call a friend, take a walk, or leave early if you’re overwhelmed.

Plan Ahead: Create Your Own Holiday Season Survival Plan

• Make a list of situations that have upset you in the past and plan alternative responses.
• Review anniversary dates of losses or celebrations and anticipate how you may feel so others can offer support.
• Make a list of small things that genuinely help you enjoy the season.
• Write down a personal self-care plan: How will you care for yourself during this season?

The Eight Dimensions of Wellness is a helpful whole-person tool for supporting well-being: https://library.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/sma16-4958.pdf

In the next issue of Mountaintop Emotional Resilience, I’ll explore the tricky business of New Year’s resolutions using the lens of the Eight Dimensions of Wellness. 

Helle Thorning, Ph.D.MS, LCSW is a licensed mental health professional and educator. You can learn more about her and her practice here 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1284875

If you or someone you know is feeling hopeless or thinking about suicide, call 988 for immediate support. You can also reach out to a trusted friend, family member, clergy member, or licensed mental health professional—no one has to face these feelings alone.


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